Live and Grieve™ — Tri-Pillars LLC

You're not
grieving wrong.

Grief isn't a problem to fix. It's something you carry. Our programs give communities the tools to walk alongside loss, together, for as long as it takes.

The Problem

The five stages were never meant to be a roadmap.

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross wrote those stages for people facing their owndeath, not for the people left behind. Decades later, we're still handing grieving people a checklist and wondering why they feel stuck.

There's no timeline.

No finish line, no expiration date. You don't outgrow love, and you don't outgrow the missing.

Silence makes it worse.

When communities don't have language for grief, people carry it alone. That isolation compounds everything.

One size fits nobody.

Kids grieve differently than adults. Culture matters. Support that ignores the person isn't really support.

What We Do

Grief support built for real life.

Grief support circle gathering

Live and Grieve™ brings structured, research-backed grief support into the places people already trust: schools, churches, hospitals, workplaces, community centers.

We train local facilitators to lead the program. They bring the presence. We provide the structure. What comes out of that feels human, because it is.

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Your presence is the medicine. The curriculum is the structure. Together, that's where transformation happens.

Wayne & Jamie Simms

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What Sets Us Apart

Different by design.

Rooted in Research

Six peer-reviewed frameworks guide everything we do — three theoretical frameworks that structure the program arc (Dual Process Model, Worden's Tasks of Mourning, Continuing Bonds) and three applied practice frameworks that shape every session (Meaning Reconstruction, Self-Compassion, Companioning). Not the five stages.

Community First

We partner with organizations people already trust. Grief support shows up where people already feel safe, not in an unfamiliar office across town.

Facilitator-Led

Trained facilitators bring structure and presence. No clinical license required. Just people who care and know how to hold space.

The Programs

For every stage of life.

Live and Grieve™
52 Weeks

Live and Grieve™

Adult Program

A year-long, four-book program for adults walking through loss. Weekly small groups, trained facilitators, and a pace that respects where you actually are.

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Live and Grieve Youth™
13 Sessions

Live and Grieve Youth™

Youth Program

13 sessions for children and teens, offered through schools and youth organizations. Two age tracks, designed for how young people actually process grief.

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The Solo Companion
13 Weeks, Self-Guided

The Solo Companion

Self-Guided

The complete Book 1 experience, self-guided and on your schedule. For individuals who can't access a group or want to begin now.

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Large Print editions of the participant workbook are available on Amazon.

The Solo Companion

Grief doesn't wait for a group to form.

The Solo Companion brings the full Live and Grieve™ Book 1 experience to your phone, your pace, your time.

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13 weeks of structured grief curriculum

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Journal, tracker, and weekly reflections

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Crisis resources always one tap away

Start for $24.99 — or three payments of $9.99.

Begin Book 1 Today

In a facilitated group? Ask your facilitator for your access code.

Who We Partner With

Grief belongs in community.

We bring Live and Grieve™ to the organizations where people already feel safe.

🏛Schools & Universities
Faith Communities
🏥Healthcare Systems
💼Workplace Programs
🤝Community Action Centers
Wayne and Jamie Simms with community partners

Our Story

Born from loss. Built for community.

Wayne and Jamie Simms didn't plan to build a grief program. They were just trying to survive their own. They lost their son Jacoby and their nephew Ian.

What they found wasn't enough. The resources felt clinical. The timelines were unrealistic. The language was cold. They wanted something warmer, something that told the truth: grief and life happen at the same time, not one after the other.

Live and Grieve™ is what they built. Not to replace professional care, but to create the kind of steady, community-rooted support that makes healing possible in the spaces between.

Free Resource

What Grief Research Actually Says

And why it changes everything. A free guide from the founders of Live and Grieve™ on the science behind a better way to support people through loss.

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